4 - Freak Out (Patience)

3 - Tell children what they need and don't need (Empathy)

This is often simply a matter of how we phrase our requests – when we tell someone, even a child, “you need to put on your shoes” or “you need to eat your vegetables”, we are really saying in essence, “I would like you to put on your shoes and eat your vegetables”.  The problem with the language choice in the former style is that over a period of years, the child may start to assume that we, the parents, are actually the only one who knows what they need, and they will cease to rely on their intuition in terms of their own needs.  After al

2 - Think that kids have capacities that they don't have (Development)

This is a form of egocentricity.  We have traces of magical thinking left over from our childhood and they include the assumption that everyone knows what we are thinking and that everyone sees things from our perspective and if they don't, there must be something wrong with them.  With regard to children, not only do they not see things as we do, they are often not developmentally or physically capable of either seeing things from our perspective or even understanding certain perspectives.

1 - Say “no” (Attachment)

We start saying no when our kids are babies and it may even be an important milestone for us as disciplinarians – I remember the first time I said no to my first child and he understood and accepted it as the final word on the matter – what an easy day that was. 

7 Destructive Tendencies of Parents

Why write about the negative aspects of parenting?

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